goal setting

5 C's Of Manifesting Your Dreams

I've been consciously goal setting for a handful of years now. Before then I never really took the time to reflect on exactly what it is I wanted and why. Mostly I chose the next thing because I couldn't stay where I was. 

After college I needed to find somewhere to live and work. So I chose NYC and I continued to pursue dance while waiting tables because that's what I always did. Eventually I realized that although I loved to dance it wasn't something I was willing to dedicate my life to. I continued to wait tables and waited for the next thing to arise as I took different classes on things I was interested in like jewelry making and pottery.  

Then my husband suggested I try the yoga class he had been going to. I went, loved it, and decided I wanted to learn more and took the 800 hour teacher training. I began teaching and then a few years later we moved to Kelowna. 

In Kelowna, now with a baby in tow and eventually another, I had to financially contribute to our family and needed "a real job" as teaching a handful of yoga classes wasn't cutting it. This is when I started to really explore my dharma, passions, and talents. It was then that I began consciously designing the livelihood and lifestyle I wanted. Hence Align and Thrive and Empowered Living were born.

The latest dream I've manifested is combining my love of travel with yoga into a yoga retreat. If doing a yoga retreat and going to Bali are one of your dreams, you should come

If I were to codify the key components of making things happen it comes down to these 5 C’s: 

  • Clarity 
  • Commitment 
  • Courage 
  • Community 
  • Creation 

Clarity: You need to create space to reflect on and clarify what you want. This requires getting off the hamster wheel of life, pressing pause and getting out a journal to write down your deepest desires. Make sure the things you’re going after are indeed what YOU want, not what’s expected of you. Are they in line with YOUR values or someone else’s?  

Commitment: Once you determine what you want, then it’s a matter of committing to making it happen. A great way to ensure you do is to take action immediately. Set things into motion. I find that if I tell someone right away that I’m going to do something, I’m way more likely to follow through. Don’t leave great ideas in your head, get them out into the world straightaway or they wither and die.

“If you’re interested, you come up with stories, excuses, reasons, and circumstances about why you can’t or why you won’t. If you’re committed, those go out the window. You just do whatever it takes.” — John Assaraf

Courage: Don’t wait for confidence before you take the leap. Confidence comes after you take action. Courage is what you need to muster to step boldly forward in the direction of your dreams. This means silencing the naysayer in your head and just going for it. Build your wings on the way down. 

Community: You don’t need to do it alone - nor should you. In fact, good luck if you're trying to figure it all out yourself. Put yourself in the way of teachers, peers and community who has what you want and they will pull you up. It's a more streamlined way to manifesting your dreams. 

Creation: One definition of creation is "to come into being". This is about breaking it down into manageable chunks, scheduling it in and sticking to the plan. This obviously requires good time management skills and work ethic. I've compiled come resources for that here

What are your dreams? Hit "reply" and let me know. If you're clear on what you want but you're not making them happen - ask yourself: which C are you missing?

What I accomplished in 2016

Over the past several years I’ve become somewhat obsessed with goal setting. There was a turning point in my life about 4 years ago when decided to become a yoga health coach. I wanted to work with students who were more committed to their own improvement and growth and I wanted to guide them into creating amazing results. 

At the time I didn’t know anything about coaching or habit change. I had just started to learn how to plan and reach goals. I began exploring recommended books, I filled out goal setting workbooks and dove deep into the sea of personal growth. I was smitten. 

While the day-dreaming of journaling my goals was fun, I knew I needed to learn some skills I didn’t have and needed to find teachers who had walked the path before me. So I joined a group coaching course, I followed the best online bloggers on habit change and read the best books on personal achievement, time management and goal setting (book list coming soon). I then compiled everything I learned and taught it to my students (to help me integrate the material even more). 

Every year since I’ve achieved the goals I set for myself (or at least come very close), I discovered strategies that work (planning, tracking, accountability) and refined my systems even more. I use these systems in my group coaching courses to help my students create health breakthroughs that change their lives.
This year I met the following goals I set for myself:

This was all done being a mom of 2 young boys and working approximately 25 hours a week. 

I don’t share this to brag (although we should all own our achievements more), but to illustrate the fact that when you have a daily routine that is aligned with how you want to feel and what you want to make happen, anything is possible.

How to actually achieve your goals and the best decision I made this year

As the end of the year approaches there's a tangible pull to create new goals and set intentions for the year to come. There’s a natural momentum and desire to improve and upgrade as we turn a new leaf and begin a new year. January, which marks the start of our calendar year, is itself named for Janus, the Roman god with two faces. One face looks to the past and one looks to the future. I have a personal tradition this time of year of journaling wishes and dreams and choosing which seeds to plant, nurture and grow in the upcoming year. I also go back and read the goals I set the previous year to see how well I did.

What I noticed is-

Wishes and dreams alone aren't enough.

Trying to make changes on your own rarely works.

Doing the same thing I've always done gets me nowhere new.

What does work?

Enrolling people to support me and hold me accountable is extremely effective.

Trying something new yields different results.

Finding a guide or teacher puts you on the fast track to growth.

For example; A few years ago I realized that I needed and wanted to do more as a yoga teacher than just teach drop-in classes and a few workshops here and there. I didn't consider myself a “popular” teacher but wanted to reach more students. I began to do research on my own. I signed up for newsletters galore that inundated my inbox and quite frankly left me feeling more overwhelmed than informed. I was certain that I could do it alone. You can get everything you need and want on the internet right? It was a lonely and frustrating path. I learned a little, but it didn't amount to much.

Then I realized I needed a mentor. I wanted a guide who could give me the step-by-step instructions and lead the way. I’m a mother of 2 young boys with less than 2 hours a day to myself to work on my goals and passions. I didn't want to waste any more time.

I surrendered. I invested in a mentor. I enrolled in a course. And let me tell you…I will never look back. It was the best decision I made this year.

So…the moral of the story.

If you want change, if you’re ready to transform, don’t kill yourself trying to do it alone. It just doesn't work. Change is a bumpy road and hard to navigate. We need teachers with experience and training. We need community who shares our struggles and are looking in the same direction. It’s not only the most effective way, but the most fun.

So if your goals for 2015 include living with less busyness and more balance, taking care of yourself with nourishing food and better daily habits, or finally starting a meditation practice, join me next Saturday, January 3 at 3pm at the Heart School for a free talk on 8 daily habits to move youfrom stress to ease. Don’t waste any more time trying to figure it all out by yourself. Let’s come together and make a change.